Its Ok to not be OK and it is Ok to say you are not Ok

Sometimes we need to be honest not only with ourselves but with others. Yeap I am learning about those too.

It is ok to say you are not ok and you need someone. (still learning).

Cancer, chemo and the journey is a lot of mental, emotional and physical learning.

The physical is learning what your body can and cannot handle - and now is not a good time to say no pain no gain or just keep pushing. Now is the time to listen to your body and take the time you need to rest and recoup. You could make things harder for yourself if you don't. Eat better - but if you get to the point where food doesn't taste good or you have trouble eating something. Find something you can eat.

Mentally and emotionally- well you have your ups and mentally you will tell your emotional self that you are ok too. Well, before you do this and make it a habit - like I have and tell everyone you are ok. Be honest with yourself - are you because 75% of the time I can guarantee that I am not but have conditioned myself to say I am. Why do we do that? Especially around people that truly want to know how we are. Because we don't want to see the pity, the sadness - whatever emotion that we think they will have. So, we lie.

The thing is - this hurts both parties - still learning this guys - please be patient with me. Most people want the chance to help - to be part of your journey, to show some kindness in an otherwise cruel world or situation. You have shut down their chance to show this kindness and. And you have lost an opportunity to receive it.

I am not saying you have to do this with everyone, but it is ok if your close friends or your neighbors or family say - hey are you ok....It is ok to say no I don't think I am and to lean on them for a bit. Everyone is never ok 100% of the time and it is ok to lean on each other.