Positive Attitude - Not always

Ok I know this will be a bit controversial but if I hear one more person tell me to have a positive attitude or positive thoughts.... I might scream.

I know you are truly trying to be supportive, but it really gets old when everyone says it and people say it a lot. As a cancer patient - yes, we need to be positive, but we also need support, and we also need to have our feelings be acknowledge as important and we need that safe space where we can let go and have some of those big and small feelings. We don't always have to be positive. We need to be real and be supported by not being ok in the moment.

If we continue to always show a positive attitude, then we are not truly healing because you cannot always be positive in this world and especially during the cancer treatment. If you are then you are emotionally and mentally sabotaging yourself. It is ok to be yourself and to be real during your cancer treatment. It is ok not to be ok and to have someone to lean on. It is not the easiest - trust me I know. But to truly heal from the cancer, the chemo, the surgeries and the survival you have to give yourself grace, you need to be patient with yourself, and you need to be honest.

You do not have to always be positive.